Don’t Say That … Say This

  Words matter. Words reflect how we see ourselves (“No problem” can suggest “I didn’t really do anything special for you”), or how we see the customer (“Help” implies that I see you as someone who has a problem who is incapable of solving it for themselves). Words can re-emphasize what is negative about an … Continue reading

30 is NOT the New 20: Why Your 20’s Matter

Shame and Vulnerability: Brene Brown at the TED Conference

National Conflict Prevention Week: You Can Have a Nice Conflict

It’s time to control conflict. Don’t let conflict control you. Too often, rough interpersonal situations send us into an emotional spiral that feels beyond our control. But by identifying the signs, anticipating the possibility, we can actually work to prevent conflict and have more productive relationships in all areas of our lives. I am a … Continue reading

Life’s Lessons: A Summary of an Op-Ed by David Brooks

New York Times columnist David Brooks shares “Life Reports” today based on observations that he made of essays by elderly Americans on life’s lessons and what they would do differently if they could live life all over again. I found this fascinating reading, and I was inspired to share it with my readers in summary … Continue reading

The Seven Practices of An Emotionally Intelligent Person

Your boss sends out an email in which she appears to dismiss your work and openly criticizes it. Your friend ignored your text message asking to go to dinner and made plans with others instead, which you know because you saw them check in together on Facebook. The person you are dating just broke up … Continue reading

I Can’t Believe My Best Friend is a Republican

What a beautiful article by Taffy Brodesser-Akner  in today’s Salon about the maturity of recognizing that love surpasses politics. This article explains why I insist on having friends who are on all sides of an issue, and why I think we should never use extremist terms to describe those who disagree with us. It is … Continue reading

God, Sex and Love on American Campuses

Roger Friedland from the University of California Santa Barbara writes a fascinating article in today’s Religion section at Huffington Post that summarizes a Facebook survey of UCSB students. Now, granted, UCSB students are not necessarily an accurate sample of college students in every college in America. They are smarter, drunker and have more sex, generally. … Continue reading

The Hottest Cities for Dating (Or Why I’m Perpetually Single)

Yahoo ran a news article tonight that ranked America’s largest cities for best dating scenes. Who won? Austin, Texas. Those Longhorns spend more money socializing than any other city per capita, and the city has more 18-24 year olds than any other city per capita. I guess that makes sense. Here is the rest of … Continue reading

Singles, Sex and Chocolate Cake

Well, the NY Times reports on the new movement in evangelical churches to decrease the divorce and adultery rates among couples by encouraging them to have sex more often. I don’t deny that this is probably a good thing, but I couldn’t help but chuckle at the response of the pastor below. Slate reports, “The … Continue reading