A Sad Sweet Feeling: Abe Lincoln on Grief

Several friends in my life have lost parents recently, and we have been sharing our experiences of grief in the aftermath of such losses. We described the presence of a potent sadness that we had never known before, or how previously forgotten memories of cherished moments return to us in moments unexpected, or how torrents of grief … Continue reading

"A Serious Man", The Coen Brothers, and Me

It is 1967 in Minnesota, and college professor Larry Gupnik has a problem. In fact, he has a lot of problems, and it’s only getting worse. Larry is a good man, and all he wants to be is a mensch, or a serious man, who lives well and has a normal life. He is up … Continue reading

All Saints Day Reflections: Upon the Anniversary of Mom’s Illness

O blest communion, fellowship divine! We feebly struggle, they in glory shine; yet all are one in Thee, for all are Thine. “For All the Saints”, William How Today is the day which the church since the third century has come to know as All Saints Day. It is a day that roots us in … Continue reading

A Grief Observed

“The death of a parent, despite our preparations, indeed, despite our age, dislodges things deep in us, sets off reactions that surprise us and that may cut free memories and feelings that we had thought had gone to ground long ago.”Joan Didion, The Year of Magical Thinking I always heard that grief hits you most … Continue reading

Eulogy for Mom

I buried my mother this morning on a beautiful day in the late fall on the peaceful side of a hill in southern Middle Tennessee. I was overcome by the goodness of my mother and her deep impact on so many people through the simplest but most profound ways. I was moved by their stories, … Continue reading

Ann Carol Bouldin (1943-2008)

My beautiful, sweet and courageous mother passed away early this morning in her sleep. We are sad but relieved after days of struggle and suffering. I prayed for my father’s sake that we would have a clear answer of her desire and her body’s ability to live without any question. My dad was spared the … Continue reading

Terminally Ill, Terminally Human

The blinding pace of the last month finally arrived at a rest stop last night, and the weight of the past few days finally hit me. While I have written little about the experience with my mother on my blog other than to report her condition, I realized yesterday just how much it has impacted … Continue reading